Sometimes it seems that life really throws us a ball just to see if we’re still alive, focused, ‘on it’, engaged….or just for the fun of it. It’s one of the Truths – like if we’re alive, one day we won’t be in this body and the other “truth” is that everything changes. And if you’re anything like me – and being human we have a lot in common – I tend to try duck and dive these curve balls to avoid pain, conflict and stuff that’s hard. Why? Because it’s uncomfortable. And it’s hard. And sometimes it really hurts. We all have different ways of dealing with this – alcohol – I have been known to reach for the glass of wine at the end of a long day. Cigarettes. Gym. Sex. Belonging to a group – woman’s group, Bible club, meditation….. any thing that will help us to get around what we’re being dealt by just being alive. Some of these attempts definitely have more benefits than others. The only part is that even in that statement there’s a judgement. This is good or this is bad. In that judgement we make decisions as to how we are going to manage things and try to control it so we can feel better. That seems to be our driving force – to feel better. And even that can get weird. I’ve seen in my practice, and with myself when I’m honest, there is a huge attraction to being a victim/ martyr. There’s a part of the brain that convinces us that this is the best way to be....
It’s when we come home from a retreat or a workshop that the ‘REAL’ work starts. I love this post by Dr Joe Dispenza Coming Home: Tips for Integrating Your New Personality Into Your Old Personal Reality Coming Home: Tips for Integrating Your New Personality Into Your Old Personal Reality So many people tell me that the hardest part of going to an event is leaving it. The reason why is because when you return to your everyday life, that’s when the real work begins… the work being the process of integrating your new personality into your old past-present personal reality. With that said, here are some practical tips on how to do just that—although, these tips apply to any time when you want to make real, lasting changes in your life. Most importantly, do the work and do it every day. Don’t make excuses to not do the work. If you keep reminding yourself of who you want to be, while at the same time staying conscious of who you no longer want to be, eventually your personal reality will transform to match your new personality. Never stop learning. Fill your brain with knowledge and review the information you’ve learned regularly so you can continue to assign meaning as to what you’re doing and why. View your life as an initiation/test. This way you won’t be a victim to any of your life’s circumstances. When you view life as an initiation, you are challenged to bring a greater level of mind to the obstacles in your life. Remember—you can’t overcome a challenge with the same level of mind that created...
Yesterday I took part in a profound healing journey. It was a closed group call of a group of women, facilitated by Bennie Naude. Some women I know, others only through skype and sessions we have shared over the ethers. The purpose was to be witnessed as we shared a story. It was an interesting experience as my original intention was purely to hold space and witness other’s stories. Yet, the night before I had such a vivid dream about something that happened more than 20 years ago and was so triggered by events of the morning that I jumped in and shared my story. What I experienced was so beautiful. A group that held me as I talked. At no point did anyone try to fix it, make me feel better, help me see a different perspective or try to change the way I felt. I felt heard I felt loved I felt acknowledged and accepted. The group presence was powerful enough for the healing to start taking place. A story that I had not told anyone for over 20 years was heard and I felt a weight drop from my belly. Yes, I felt raw. Also, vulnerable and exposed. That wasn’t comfortable. But I also trusted this group to keep the contract we agreed to at the beginning of the session. And then I had the opportunity and privilege to listen to others. It was an amazing morning. In a group presence there is a value of sharing and being heard. And in a group there is an opportunity for deep healing to happen. Being witnessed and witnessing...
Superior presentation skills lead to deeper personal connections and relationships, an increase in leads & sales, more people knowing, liking and trusting you, and an enhanced personal brand. Bennie Naude is a Master facilitator and trainer. He is the founder and creator of one of the most life changing and in-depth personal transformational workshops that I’ve had the privilege of attending: Fall in Love with Presenting AND his website holds a wealth of additional information. He runs courses and events throughout the year and in different countries around the...
How would we live if we could give life – and ourselves – everything we’ve got.
A Woman’s Workshop on Exploring Vulnerability and Intimacy
Sat 29th October
8.30 for 9.00 – 12.30
Lotus Yoga Studio, Knysna
R500 includes tea
Approaching your body with compassion and connection through deep states of meditation opens pathways to healing on a cellular level
This is a powerful blog written by Nadirah Angail. When we reach across the boundaries and inject our opinions, thoughts, wishes where they are not asked for, we risk a deep wounding experience. Allow each woman her journey and stand as her defender, her sister, her support. Then we have the right to call her name and hold her hand.
A few weeks ago Bennie Naude and I ran our first Freedom Through Forgiveness workshop in Knysna. I was really awed and moved by the transformations I witnessed by the end of the day – and the feedback we received from participants long after the workshop showed that the decisions and revelations were life changing and powerful. To find out more about what others thought watch this video Our next workshop is on the 28th May in Knysna. The workshop runs from 9am -about 8pm with lunch and dinner and snacks provided. The fee is R1250. If you would like to join us or would like more information then please contact us or Click here to register When you decide You matter then You make different...
I would like to share this very moving story with you. It was so poignant how this beautiful woman found links from her past that seemed so totally unrelated and yet had created filters that clouded her ability to bond with her son. A client suffered from postnatal depression after the birth of her 3rd child. She often experienced a sense of overwhelm and of feeling unsupported. She came to see me when her children older and yet she still experienced a sense of guilt and disconnect when she thinks about that time. Working with Matrix Birth re-imprinting I asked her to find a time that she remembered feeling very alone and disconnected to her baby.She remembers a night where her baby would not sleep and she felt so alone and angry with him. We tapped on her frustration, aloneness and feeling unsupported. With her baby asleep, we reprogrammed the belief to feeling supported and loving her baby. This memory triggered a previous memory of shock when she was told she was having a baby boy. The echo felt trapped, angry and guilty. We allowed her to vent these feelings without judgement and release her fears. She replaced her fear with– having a baby is sacred. Then she remembered an event which she says put a lot of things onto perspective – her first pregnancy was traumatic in the relationship with an emotionally abusive partner. He would not claim the child as his if it was not a boy. She remembered her fear of her baby being a boy and being linked to this man and the fear of if it...
Find the Courage to open up to spaces in your heart and Soul to love yourself enough to choose what you need. Forgiveness is not about the ‘other’ or the event. It is all about you and your relationship with yourself.
Freedom Through Forgiveness is a 1 day workshop with Bennie Naude and Jeanne Booth.
Knysna 23rd April 2016, Cape Town 7th May 2016, Joburg 21st May 2016
The Freedom Through Forgiveness day workshop is not about learning to turn the ‘other cheek’ or letting ‘them’ off the hook. It’s an opportunity for you to have a look at how you love yourself.
1 Day Workshop With Jeanne Booth and Bennie Naude
Knysna 23 April, Cape Town 7 May, Jozi 21 May
This beautiful poem by David Whyte never fails to move me.
Ladies, if you feel like hormones are ruling your life or if you suffer from menstrual cramps, back aches, PMS, fatigue, headaches, irregular cycles, food cravings, acne, bloating, or anxiety then this article is for you! It turns out that just because these symptoms are common doesn’t mean they are normal or necessary. It’s possible to balance your hormones naturally and eliminate painful and frustrating symptoms with seed cycling.
Of all the judgements that we pass in life, none is as important as the one we pass on ourselves, for that judgement touches the very centre of our existence.
…No significant aspect of our thinking, motivation, feelings, or behaviour is unaffected by our self evaluation…
When you are trying to conceive there are certain foods to avoid for fertility health, like raw fish. On the upside, there are certain quick and easy changes you can make to your diet which will dramatically boost your fertility so lets start with the good news! According to a study published in Nature Cell Biology a diet rich in organic foods and devoid of tobacco, caffeine and alcohol is the best way to protect your fertility from damage. Of course organic foods are the best fertility insurance. Here are some tips to get you started: Pregnant women who regularly eat fruit and especially vegetables are 46% less likely to miscarry Vegetables should be lightly steamed to avoid nutrient loss and digestive problems Fruit should be eaten alone, not with other food. It should be limited to 2 pieces per day and dried fruit should be completely avoided. A Lancet study found women who ate 350g or more of certain fish each week during pregnancy gave birth to children with more advanced verbal IQ scores, social skills, and communication than those mothers who ate little or no fish. WARNING: Research shows that some fish can be toxic to your fertility, even decreasing your chances of conception and your ability to create a healthy baby. That is why it is essential to know what foods to avoid for fertility, which fish are safe to eat and how to add them to your diet. Protein is an important part of a healthy diet however if you were a big fan of raw fish foods it’s vital to know that when eating...
Tapping on global issues is the single most common mistake newcomers make with EFT. Using lists of tapping phrases from a website or a book, or tapping on generalities, is far less effective than tuning into the events that contributed to your global problem, and tapping on them.
If you hear someone say, “EFT doesn’t work,” the chances are good they’ve been tapping globally rather than identifying specific events.
Did you know that every cell in your body is replaced every seven years? It’s true—at the cellular level, the oldest you get is about seven years old. I remember years ago hearing Deepak Chopra speak about this. He said that the only reason we keep creating the same body—or one that seems to deteriorate with age—is that we keep thinking the same thoughts over and over again.
To those of you considering egg freezing mainly because you’re worried about your age I sincerely recommend learning as much as you can about the process and risks and that you follow the above protocols. These could be a part of a solution that, if you’re willing to embrace the fullness of it, will benefit your entire body and “reverse” your biological age.
pp dads1This is the advice and reassurance I always give in my practice to the partners of women suffering from post partum depression.
I believe that pregnancy ITSELF is a sacred journey, not just the BIRTH part, and its critical that we recognize that as true. We have given women a huge dis-service by filling their heads up with so much “birthy” knowledge that she gets overwhelmed instead of uplifted, educated instead of prepared.