Facing LIFE head-on with a lot of heart

Facing LIFE head-on with a lot of heart

Sometimes it seems that life really throws us a ball just to see if we’re still alive, focused, ‘on it’, engaged….or just for the fun of it. It’s one of the Truths – like if we’re alive, one day we won’t be in this body and the other “truth” is that everything changes. And if you’re anything like me – and being human we have a lot in common – I tend to try duck and dive these curve balls to avoid pain, conflict and stuff that’s hard. Why? Because it’s uncomfortable. And it’s hard. And sometimes it really hurts. We all have different ways of dealing with this – alcohol – I have been known to reach for the glass of wine at the end of a long day. Cigarettes. Gym. Sex. Belonging to a group – woman’s group, Bible club, meditation….. any thing that will help us to get around what we’re being dealt by just being alive. Some of these attempts definitely have more benefits than others. The only part is that even in that statement there’s a judgement. This is good or this is bad. In that judgement we make decisions as to how we are going to manage things and try to control it so we can feel better. That seems to be our driving force – to feel better. And even that can get weird. I’ve seen in my practice, and with myself when I’m honest, there is a huge attraction to being a victim/ martyr. There’s a part of the brain that convinces us that this is the best way to be....
The beautiful healing power of being heard

The beautiful healing power of being heard

Yesterday I took part in a profound healing journey. It was a closed group call of a group of women, facilitated by Bennie Naude. Some women I know, others only through skype and sessions we have shared over the ethers. The purpose was to be witnessed as we shared a story. It was an interesting experience as my original intention was purely to hold space and witness other’s stories. Yet, the night before I had such a vivid dream about something that happened more than 20 years ago and was so triggered by events of the morning that I jumped in and shared my story. What I experienced was so beautiful. A group that held me as I talked. At no point did anyone try to fix it, make me feel better, help me see a different perspective or try to change the way I felt. I felt heard I felt loved I felt acknowledged and accepted. The group presence was powerful enough for the healing to start taking place. A story that I had not told anyone for over 20 years was heard and I felt a weight drop from my belly. Yes, I felt raw. Also, vulnerable and exposed. That wasn’t comfortable. But I also trusted this group to keep the contract we agreed to at the beginning of the session. And then I had the opportunity and privilege to listen to others. It was an amazing morning. In a group presence there is a value of sharing and being heard. And in a group there is an opportunity for deep healing to happen. Being witnessed and witnessing...
The intricacies of a Mother’s Journey – Post natal depression and healing

The intricacies of a Mother’s Journey – Post natal depression and healing

I would like to share this very moving story with you. It was so poignant how this beautiful woman found links from her past that seemed so totally unrelated and yet had created filters that clouded her ability to bond with her son. A client suffered from postnatal depression after the birth of her 3rd child. She often experienced a sense of overwhelm and of feeling unsupported. She came to see me when her children older and yet she still experienced a sense of guilt and disconnect when she thinks about that time. Working with Matrix Birth re-imprinting I asked her to find a time that she remembered feeling very alone and disconnected to her baby.She remembers a night where her baby would not sleep and she felt so alone and angry with him. We tapped on her frustration, aloneness and feeling unsupported. With her baby asleep, we reprogrammed the belief to feeling supported and loving her baby. This memory triggered a previous memory of shock when she was told she was having a baby boy. The echo felt trapped, angry and guilty.  We allowed her to vent these feelings without judgement and release her fears. She replaced her fear with– having a baby is sacred. Then she remembered an event which she says put a lot of things onto perspective – her first pregnancy was traumatic in the relationship with an emotionally abusive partner. He would not claim the child as his if it was not a boy. She remembered her fear of her baby being a boy and being linked to this man and the fear of if it...
Thoughts about forgiveness

Thoughts about forgiveness

Find the Courage to open up to spaces in your heart and Soul to love yourself enough to choose what you need. Forgiveness is not about the ‘other’ or the event. It is all about you and your relationship with yourself.

Freedom Through Forgiveness is a 1 day workshop with Bennie Naude and Jeanne Booth.
Knysna 23rd April 2016, Cape Town 7th May 2016, Joburg 21st May 2016

The Importance of being specific with EFT

The Importance of being specific with EFT

Tapping on global issues is the single most common mistake newcomers make with EFT. Using lists of tapping phrases from a website or a book, or tapping on generalities, is far less effective than tuning into the events that contributed to your global problem, and tapping on them.

If you hear someone say, “EFT doesn’t work,” the chances are good they’ve been tapping globally rather than identifying specific events.

Jaeda, school and eft.

Jaeda, school and eft.

We have all heard the expression that if we want to change something then to look to ourselves first. I know this well and yet so often forget the truth of it. The power of this thought and using EFT recently had an enormous impact on how I was handling my child at her new school and the impact on the family all round has been so profound that I really wanted to share this with you. Jaeda started grade 1 this year and although there are some aspects of school she really enjoys, there are some parts that she really is struggling to adapt to – and the main one is homework. She and I hit rock bottom nearly every afternoon with her so called 20 minutes turning into a slog and battle and a lot longer than 20 minutes. I started dreading homework time. I felt huge anger and frustration and resentment towards the school. It was unfair and wrong to put my child into a homework routine at the age of 6 and in grade.  I judged the school and their policies and soon found fault with almost everything they did. And yet felt helpless and hopeless to change it – apart from taking her out of school and then what??? And so my children started to experience school as difficult, challenging and every morning we battled with them not wanting to go. They both became angry and defensive and resistant. And Josh is only 5 and in play school but even that was proving to be too much for him. I tried tapping on them,...