Foods to avoid for Fertility

Foods to avoid for Fertility

When you are trying to conceive there are certain foods to avoid for fertility health, like raw fish. On the upside, there are certain quick and easy changes you can make to your diet which will dramatically boost your fertility so lets start with the good news! According to a study published in Nature Cell Biology a diet rich in organic foods and devoid of tobacco, caffeine and alcohol is the best way to protect your fertility from damage. Of course organic foods are the best fertility insurance. Here are some tips to get you started: Pregnant women who regularly eat fruit and especially vegetables are 46% less likely to miscarry Vegetables should be lightly steamed to avoid nutrient loss and digestive problems Fruit should be eaten alone, not with other food. It should be limited to 2 pieces per day and dried fruit should be completely avoided. A Lancet study found women who ate 350g or more of certain fish each week during pregnancy gave birth to children with more advanced verbal IQ scores, social skills, and communication than those mothers who ate little or no fish. WARNING: Research shows that some fish can be toxic to your fertility, even decreasing your chances of conception and your ability to create a healthy baby.  That is why it is essential to know what foods to avoid for fertility, which fish are safe to eat and how to add them to your diet. Protein is an important part of a healthy diet however if you were a big fan of raw fish foods it’s vital to know that when eating...
The Sobering Facts About Egg Freezing That Nobody’s Talking About

The Sobering Facts About Egg Freezing That Nobody’s Talking About

To those of you considering egg freezing mainly because you’re worried about your age I sincerely recommend learning as much as you can about the process and risks and that you follow the above protocols. These could be a part of a solution that, if you’re willing to embrace the fullness of it, will benefit your entire body and “reverse” your biological age.

There’s more to it than babies

There’s more to it than babies

Jeanne and I went through four year of trying to fall pregnant.  Like many, we started naturally – having more sex and trying to have it at the right time.  After a good many months of this, and not being pregnant, we looked around for other options.  We went to naturopaths and homeopaths, drank Chinese medicine and meditated.  We changed our diets and our thought patterns.  When these options didn’t work either, we took the step to look at medical options.  Tests, scans and an operation or two later we still had no luck, and started IVF. After a few rounds of IVF we shifted again, this time doing IVF using donor eggs. Looking back now, those were a very long four years filled with intense emotion, stress and obsession.  Going through the process Jeanne and I had one focus – falling pregnant and having a baby.  And yet with hindsight I now realise that we got a lot of other things out of those four years. My relationship with Jeanne and understanding of her grew in ways that would never have occurred if we had not gone through the process together.  My connection to my broader family and friends was deepened as I chose to open up to them, and asked them to step up in terms of supporting us.  I gained huge insight into the way I work- my thinking habits and way of processing situations.  I learnt things about my body and how to work with it. So while the fertility process was about falling pregnant, I can now see that it impacted on other areas...
My Story

My Story

I never thought that I would have a problem falling pregnant.  When I was younger I was terrified of missing my period and was very conscious of trying very hard not to. When I was 26 I fell pregnant and it came as a big surprise. Having Emma and being a single mum was a loving, learning and trying time of my life. Then I met and married Linden when I was 40 and we wanted to have children together. 2 years of really ‘trying’ led us to explore some medical support and answers. First was the laparoscopy which proved that although I had a slight blockage in my left fallopian tube, there was no medical reason why I could not have a baby. So began the journey onto Clomid, Homeopathy, Chinese remedies, herbal remedies, acupuncture, Chiropractor treatments…. which led to IVF and then to donor egg IVF. After 4 years of intense fertility treatments and many doctors later, I finally fell pregnant on my 6th and last round of IVF with Jaeda. It was the most wonderful day of my life when Dr Dhansay called to say “you won’t believe this – it is positive!” I was with my Mum and Linden was away on the farm – miles away. Suddenly all we had been through was gone – the pain, the tears, the anguish, the longing. Jaeda was born by emergency caesarean (my plans for natural birth not working out even though the room next had a birthing pool and midwife waiting)- a healthy beautiful baby girl.  This earth mother had learnt many lessons, been humbled, reduced...
Linden and Jeanne

Linden and Jeanne

In our fertility process I found dealing with family and friends stressful.  I am an up front kind of guy – so I did not keep our journey secret, and shared openly with my family and friends our process and what we were going through.  Sharing my journey with them for me was easy – but dealing with their varied responses was the hard work.  In particular dealing with their responses every time we had an unsuccessful attempt at conceiving, either through natural cycles or through IVF, was tough on me. When we received a negative result, we would grieve.  Our grief had many emotions – as it always does – including sadness, anger, frustration, resignation and at times despair.  And eventually it would be processed, and we would return to acceptance and facing the decision as to what road forward. When we are with someone who is grieving, we all respond differently.  And with our family and friends we had almost the full range of reactions. Some people felt the grief and sadness strongly themselves – crying, sadness, depression. Some tried to make us feel better – “It will all be ok”, “ There is a reason for this, even if you cannot see it now”, or “Don’t worry, you can always try again.” Some gave us advice – “All you need to do is relax more”, “Next time you need to meditate or pray more”, “ Don’t be so stressed”. Some told us stories – “ When cousin Jenny was going through this she drank wine every night and fell pregnant”, or “ My secretary fell pregnant...
How to be a good friend.

How to be a good friend.

Here is a great blog from someone that was on a fertility journey, and wanted to share advice for family and friends! (http://tertia.typepad.com/so_close/2004/05/how_to_be_good_.html) “I have quite a few ‘normal’ friends (i.e. not infertile) who read this blog. (I am so far out the closet it is frightening, even my brother and ex flirts read this blog). Imagine how confusing most of the lingo must be for them. Anyhow. Back to the point of this post. One of those friends said to me “I wish you would write about how to be a good friend to an infertile person”. Which is really sweet of her and shows she has already passed one of the requirements. So I started thinking about writing a post on this and realized what a hard task this is. How do you become a Good Friend to an Infertile? Firstly, I have to say that this being a Good Friend to someone struggling to an Infertile is not an easy job at all. It is a job with fluid parameters, a thankless job sometimes and one where it might appear that no matter how hard you try, you never seem to get it right. There are times when you will be extremely busy and the job is very demanding. There are other times where you will benched, forced to sit on the outside looking in. There is not often any logic in this change of demand. Be aware of the volatility of work pressure when applying for this job. It is not a decision to be taken lightly. Secondly, there is not a universal job description,...
Alcohol and Fertility

Alcohol and Fertility

For years the old wives’ tale advice for falling pregnant was to have a glass of sherry and relax. Now research is showing that we really need to look at alternative, healthy and far more CONSCIOUS methods to increase our libido and fertility.