The beautiful healing power of being heard

The beautiful healing power of being heard

Yesterday I took part in a profound healing journey. It was a closed group call of a group of women, facilitated by Bennie Naude. Some women I know, others only through skype and sessions we have shared over the ethers. The purpose was to be witnessed as we shared a story. It was an interesting experience as my original intention was purely to hold space and witness other’s stories. Yet, the night before I had such a vivid dream about something that happened more than 20 years ago and was so triggered by events of the morning that I jumped in and shared my story. What I experienced was so beautiful. A group that held me as I talked. At no point did anyone try to fix it, make me feel better, help me see a different perspective or try to change the way I felt. I felt heard I felt loved I felt acknowledged and accepted. The group presence was powerful enough for the healing to start taking place. A story that I had not told anyone for over 20 years was heard and I felt a weight drop from my belly. Yes, I felt raw. Also, vulnerable and exposed. That wasn’t comfortable. But I also trusted this group to keep the contract we agreed to at the beginning of the session. And then I had the opportunity and privilege to listen to others. It was an amazing morning. In a group presence there is a value of sharing and being heard. And in a group there is an opportunity for deep healing to happen. Being witnessed and witnessing...
Never again without Jeanne

Never again without Jeanne

I wanted to share with you my experience of having Jeanne as a Doula with me on my journey to parenthood.  Actually she was with “us” – as she was as much a support to Jaco as she was to me. Dr. Odendaal suggested I go to Jeanne for some energy work (there were some issues that had come up for me on an emotional level that Dr. Odendaal thought Jeanne could help with), and then she became my doula as well during the end of my pregnancy when I was confined to bedrest. Jeanne was a life-saver during this time. She came to give me weekly massages and she inevitably stayed for 2 hours or longer and we would get to talk about everything! As interested as Jaco was in the whole process, there are some things you really can only talk to a woman about as your body (and you) go through this huge transformation. And also – asking friends and family members is fine, but it really is better to have someone knowledgeable AND objective to advise you. And Gynaes just don’t have time for all this. Even if your pregnancy is a completely normal one, the doula will see you more frequently in the last trimester as you have more questions and as you prepare for the birth. Near my due date Jeanne went through the whole labour process with both Jaco and myself in great detail. There was a fair amount I knew – I wanted to go to the hospital for the birth, I didn’t want to use any pain killers, I wanted...