An affirmation is:

A positively phrased statement to yourself

Phrased in the present tense

Simple and short

A statement that starts with the word ‘I/My/ …’



I am becoming more and more confident in myself.

I am choosing healthy food that makes me feel good.

I love and appreciate my body.


The practice of doing affirmations allows you to begin replacing some of your stale, worn-out or negative mind chatter with more positive ideas and concepts. It is a powerful technique, one that can in a short time completely transform your attitudes and expectations about life, and thereby totally change what you experience.

Traditionally, an affirmation is a positive statement to oneself. However, simply saying the statement to oneself while feeling quite the opposite of what is being said produces an incongruent state that sometimes can be less than helpful. In order for an affirmation to be useful, it needs to be embodied as if it were happening now. In this way you are actually creating (although temporarily) a congruent and evocative experience of the change that you want. By repeatedly accessing the words, emotions and physical state you begin to learn this way of being.

Seeking to verify the truth of this statement in our day-to-day life can also help this statement become a deep-seated belief.


How to use an Affirmation

Take some time to settle down and relax.

Allow your eyes to close.

Say the affirmation to yourself out loud and continue to repeat it several more times.

As you continue to say the affirmation, start to imagine that it is already true.

Imagine it as if it were happening now.

Imagine the feelings and emotions that you will be experiencing.

Imagine how your body will be feeling and moving.

Where possible, physically perform the movement or adopt the posture.

Let yourself fully embody this statement in every way.


Extracted from The Fertile Body Method ISBN 9781845900960 © 2009 Sjanie Hugo and Crown House Publishing Ltd


Naming and identifying all the things that you are grateful for can be profoundly healing. It really helps one focus on a different perspective in life. I call it climbing the mountain – the challenge to get the bigger picture. It releases endorphins, increases feelings of wellbeing and creates a new focus of attention.

By setting a deadline on a daily basis to write down a list of what we are grateful for in our lives encourages us to become aware during the day for positive aspects and see things from a positive perspective. Often there are fantastic lessons that we learn from difficult circumstances and to search for a positive aspect really shifts our emotional state, making us more open, receptive, and engaging.

We become more willing to take risks and be ‘out there’.


How to do Gratitudes

Start every day by saying or writing down 10 things that you are grateful for in your life, for example: Thank you for my healthy body; thank you for all the people I have in my life who love me; thank you for the sunshine today …


Keep a journal; and every day write down three:

– Things that happened that you are grateful for

− Qualities in you that made those things possible

− Actions that you took to make those things possible.



Mindfulness is a practice that comes from the Buddhist tradition. It is a state of observation and awareness that allows you to appreciate the here and now. Mindfulness connects you with the present moment, which is free from suffering. It reconnects you with simple pleasures. For some it may work as a reminder that the world is more than just ‘trying to have a baby’ and can increase feelings of relaxation.


How to engage in mindful activity:

Give all of your attention to whatever it is you are doing: it could be something as simple as

walking or washing the dishes.

Do it slowly.

Fully experience the physical sensations.

Focus on allowing each of your senses to take in the surroundings.

Become aware of all the details via your senses.

When thoughts intrude on your awareness, gently return your focus on the sensations,

smells, sounds and sights.

Remain in a state of non-judgement.

Simply allow yourself to receive the moment.


Extracted from The Fertile Body Method ISBN 9781845900960 © 2009 Sjanie Hugo and Crown House Publishing Ltd